men & women

  前晚跟好友Zuki聚一聚 ..

她說眼前的雲妮 " 失去光彩 " ..

是的 .. 我也知道 ..

但不用為我憂心 , 我已從情緒中站起來了 !!  " 女人 "  .. thx yr support .. haha ..

今天工作後回家 .. 開啟著电腦 ..

看到 .. 及被資詢一些情侶間問題的文章及Msm ..

我 .. 只能用個人的睇法和書中吸收的..跟大家分享吧 !!

其實 .. 男人和女人對愛情的需求是很不同的 ..

同一句意思的話 .. 他 / 她 的表達 , 也不等同她 / 他所接收的信息 ..

女方對感情 .. 是感覺 .. 關心 , 認同 , 安慰 ..

男方對感情 .. 是實在 .. 信任 , 肯定 , 鼓勵 ..

女人愛男人的時候 .. 會視他當為唯一的 .. 過度關心的愛與支持 .. 反而令男方喘不過氣來 ..

男人愛女人的時候 .. 他會以教導 , 糾正的方式去協助女人解決她們的問題 .. 這直接的方式對女方來說是不能馬上減輕難過的 ..

男人要的是空間 , 不是憐憫 .. 他們會處理自己的問題 ..

女人要的是聆聽 . 不是教導 .. 她們會慢慢地從情緒中醒過來 ..

有時候 .. 兩性在不知不覺間會因為各持的觀點而間接令對方被受傷害 ..

學習從兩性關係中所需求的方面想想 .. 一些誤解 ..可能也是不必要的 ..

Had a gathering with my good friend Zuki just a couple of nights ago.  She said the Winnie before her eyes hasn't been her usual self.  Yes, I'm well aware of that.  But no need to worry for me, I've stood up for myself despite feeling down.. thx yr support, woman .. haha ..

I got home from work today and opened my computer.  I see articles concerning the problems between love relationship and other such messages.  I can only share my views and what I've read through book to everyone.  

The fact is, men and women have different views on what they expect in a relationship... Things you say and how he/she expresses it doesn't necessary carry the same meaning to opposite sex.  Women view relationships as a feeling, concern, agreement and consolation.  Men view relationship as something practical with trust, confirmation and encouragement.

When women love their men, she'll see him as the only one for her.  Too much love and support might even make him feel like he can no longer breathe.  When a man loves a woman, he would help her solve problems in a manner that he is mentoring and correcting her ways.  Such a direct method might not reduce a woman's worries.

Men need their space, not pity.  They'll solve their own problems.  Women need someone to listen to them, not for someone to teach them.  They'll slowly piece themselves together from a bad mood.

Sometimes, the sexes would unknowingly hurt each other due to the insistence of their own views.  Try learning how to think about the needs of the opposite sex.  Perhaps some of these misunderstandings are unnecessary.