Reflection part 3b. The Deeper Wound

Everything is a process.Imagine this world as a big sphere. We are all in this sphere, connected to each other and other creatures and substances. Nothing happens in an instant. It mightseem that it happens in fractions of seconds but what is hidden is that it is only one part/step of a chained process. For example: Water drops - happens in an instant. It happens after one tilted a glass. water drops is not the end. It wets the floor, which is also not the end. Understanding this helps bring us closer to God, the source of life. There is no beginning nor ending. It's a "whole" process. God is the beginning and the end while there is no beginning nor ending. Lost? Enlightment may then come to you if you understand holism that everything is a WHOLE process with no beginning nor ending. Will then living it bring you to the path of enlightment? How?

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You want it? then ask for it and  you'll be given; Knock and the door would be opened for you. Sitting there grunting/complaining will not help, so does repeating the same sets of solutions for years. If you have been complaining, look back and see. If you find yourself complaining about the same people, the same things for years then you should ask yourself this question: "WHY AM I STILL COMPLAINING THIS PRESENT MOMENT?" It's either because you hope that something might happen/change/bring change or you deny and refuse to accept your facts. That is not very smart, is it?

The complete version of the above question is "Why am I still complaining over the same things this present moment after years and years having to deal with them?" Worse, this complete question arises other questions: Have you been repetitively hurt/disappointed by others or by yourself (WHOM) ? Have they decided to keep hurting you or have you chosen to allow yourself to be continiously hurt by them (HOW) ?

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Next, Why do you think you are still hurting over them? or shall I put it straight by asking you AND myself, Why do you ALLOW yourself or choose to be continuously hurt/disappointed by them (WHY)?  You might think "AM I crazy? Why would I allow myself to be hurt continously or choose to be disappointed?". Look closer, pay attention. What do you see? Fear? Perhaps maybe fear is the answer. Have you feared to face yourself? Have you feared you have nothing to lean on? Have you feared that you might have to face judgement with no body to blame or nothing to rely on for excuses? Was that why you choose the choice you chose?

If so, What are you going to do? What are you going to do that will bring the change you have always asked for, dreamed for, hoped for (WHAT)?

Now... Do you see?

Ask and you will be given. Ask questions, and answer will be given, understanding will come. All along, you have the answers inside you so it is an assurance that you will be given as long as you DARE to ask.

Knock and the door will be opened for you. Find, search, look and understanding will be available for you. The question is do you care to look. Do you care to knock? Jesus' wisdom has always been available to us all along. So does Buddha's and the Indian saints. I do not know how better one could write down this understanding in such a short and simple way. Sometimes, wisdom is hidden in the simplest of sentences like Buddha said Tranquilty comes from a peaceful mind. If you are so bothered how can you be at ease with yourself. Have you seen how a farmer showing more smile than a CEO? people would probably say that's coz he does not need to deal with stock prices and the demanding board of directors. Think again.... maybe to some extent that is right. The question though is how you control you mind rather than having it controls you. You ready?

-Understanding/wisdom:I may not understand why or what is happening to me now, but if I undertake the healing journey, understanding will come.

Until you face how you feel - not what you should feel - healing can't begin.

Be patient and gentle with yourself. Don't get sidetracked by anger. Ask what has made you angry and frustrated. You'll see the deeper source is always fear. Fear must be respected until you find a way to release it and respect your defenses while working on your emotional boundaries. They don't collapse, they MELT. Don't worry as healing and relief always takes less time than building up a wound.

Your greatest weapons are willingness, honesty and patience.

Healing is not a solitary work. Look for someone who is tolerant and accepting of their own flaws, someone who listens well and doesn't impose their own judgement on others. They may not be your parents/best friends. Sharing is crucial; if you expect others to be open to you then it is only fair if you are too. Don't go too far and dump your problems on others' ears, they are not your trash zone. Don't ask for advice - your intention is to bring the energy into view for you to deal with these energy~the process of release that you must continue on  your own.

Where to turn when we don't have that "someone" in our personal life?

a. professional help.

b. spiritual law: when you are ready, guidance will come.

Face your dark energy as honestly as you can. Respect boundaries: your boundaries and every other person's boundaries.