Better get hurt by the truth then comforted with a lie|寧願被事實所傷也不要被謊言安撫

How many people in this world can live by only truths and no lies?

I remember when i was a kid, my dad once said, in order to sustain a long lasting relationship, the female has to keep one eye closed. Growing up, I realised that this might not just be useful in boy-girl , husband-wife relationship but it should be applied to anybody or everybody in this living world. Maybe, one day when you're dead, and your spirit being invisible, will be able to see what everyone else is doing behind your back. Come to think of it, sometimes we actually know something wrong is going on around us , right in front of us and we chose to turn a blind eye to it. How do we justify what is the truth and what is right? 

"How To kIll Your Husband" ..... never judge a book by it's cover and by what you read without thinking. 'A very funny book' as it was introduced to me by a lady i met at the bookstore . This isn't a book one should read if you're planning to get married, or has super fantasies about love and marriage. It'll spoil every dream of a girl. There will be people who'll say " oh my boyfriend/husband is not like that, it's just a book.." Thats someone who'd rather live by her own fantasy than be confronted by the truth. Is that bad? Is that wrong? I don't think so either. Cuz when you thing some thing is not gonna turn out well, it most likely would not turn out well. Meanwhile, we should not ignor the facts of life.

A woman found out that her best friend's husband has been cheating on her best friend for years. Using her hard earned money to feed this other family of his, with another woman and a kid. He has always told her he doesn't want and doesn't like kids so they are kidless.  So, this woman, sympathises her girlfriend being kept in the dark, told her about her cheating husband.

If it were you.... would you tell your bestfriend this painful truth?| 世界上有多少人能夠只說真話，不撒謊?

我記得小時候爸爸曾經說過，為了長久維持一段關系，女人要睜一只眼閉一只眼。長大以後，我意識到這個不止能運用到男生—女生、丈夫—妻子的關系上，還適用於生活在這社會上的每個人。也許有一天當你仙逝了，靈魂還在，就能看到其他人背著你做的事了。想想看，有時我們已經感覺到有什麽不對，就在眼前，但我們選擇了閉上眼睛不看。我們要如何證明什麽是真的，什麽又是對的?

《如何殺死你丈夫》……永遠不要僅憑封面或你沒讀過的主觀臆斷給一本書下定論。”一本非常有趣的書”，書店裏遇到一位女士對我這麽說。如果你正打算結婚，或對愛情、婚姻懷有美妙憧憬，那就別讀，它會破壞女孩的所有夢想。它適合那些說”哦，我的男友/丈夫不是這樣的人，這只是本書罷了…”的人讀，適合寧願活在幻想中，不想跟現實做對的人讀。很壞嗎？錯了嗎？我不這麽認為。因為如果你覺得什麽事成不了，那它往往真的成不了。而且我寧願面對現實。

一個女人發現她最好朋友的丈夫欺騙她好友許多年，丈夫用好朋友辛苦賺來的錢養育他的另一個家庭，那裏有另一個女人和一個孩子。但他告訴老婆不喜歡也不想要孩子，所以他們至今都沒生育。這個女人同情她好友一直被蒙在鼓裏，於是告訴了她真相。

如果是你…你會告訴最好的朋友這個傷人的真相嗎?

Her bestfriend blamed her and hated her for telling her the truth, for she's now being robbed of  her perfectly happy marriage and perfect husband !!

Oh man.....this guy is living off her but when confronted, he blamed it on his wife by saying that he doesn't feel like a man cuz she's earning more than he does and only in his other home does he feel like a man. What kind of person is that? I do see his point of view...DON'T BE SO CHEAP TO LIVE OFF YOUR WIFE then. The saddest part is that she doesn't even mind it at al, she doesn't mind being the breadwinner cuz for so many years, she's been very happy with her marriage. hmm....poor thing.

This is only one small fraction of the book, there're many other funny and more interesting and sadder stories in there and it got me thinking. . . .  it's not such a funny book afterall....it's depressing. At the end of the day, is the guy always the winner and the girl the loser? Or are we all losers? Can we all be winners? haha...if no one loses, how do we define the winner?In a relationship, is there a winner ?Is there a loser? This is not a competition, why would there be a winner or a loser?| 好友責怪她、恨她告知真相，因為她從此不再擁有完美、快樂的婚姻和完美的丈夫了!!

哦，天啊…這個男人靠她生活，但當真相揭露後，他責怪老婆，說從來沒覺得自己是個男人，因為她掙得比他多，只有在另一個家他才感覺到自己象個男人。這是個什麽人啊?我了解他的想法…那麽就不要這麽卑賤地靠老婆生活。最悲哀的是她根本不介意，不介意這麽多年做養家糊口的人，還為她的婚姻感到開心。恩…真可憐。

這只是書中的一個小片段，還有許多有趣或悲傷的故事，讓我思考…這其實根本不是有趣的書…壓抑。最後的問題，男人總是贏家而女人輸了?或者我們都是輸家？我們能否都贏呢？哈哈…如果沒有人輸，又怎麽會有贏家？在一段關系中，有贏家和輸家嗎？這不是一場比賽，為什麽會有贏和輸？